“To Japanese men”:
Author: Nanami Shiono, writes historical novels (has been living in Italy for a long time), won the Order of Culture in 2023,
published in 1989, Bungei-shunju
(from her book)
-Mr. C. Maruyama once said : “women are, after all, best if they are smart”.
I think a smart man – thinks and judges everything with his own mind and is free from prejudice. He is not rigid in his principles, flexible, and has sharp and deep insight. A man with his own philosophy.
Mr I.Tamba: ” An actor can experience hundreds of lives and live for five or six thousand years. It is important to give off your own scent”.
-Author: I have written to wow an editor. The editor once said – you will be one of the few female writers who will wow the men.
-Machiavelli: not published while alive, five years later.
-It all depends on how many wonderful elements we have in our hearts!
-Love is like a car accident: some people never have an accident in their lives, others have several.
Love and car accidents: the price is different. But the price is well worth it. At the very least, we can say from the bottom of our hearts that it is wonderful to live.
-Some people have a connection that allows them to speak the same language, which is a must in order to play in the same world. It has nothing to do with making money.
-I had a relationship with the filmmaker L.Visconti who was homosexual.
-Confident men know that talent is 60% and 40% destiny.
-From my European upbringing, I find American-raised Japanese like Yoko Ono too simplistic to follow.
-A manly man has a killing sentence – the ability to optimally perceive what the other person wants most subconsciously.
-Women are sexually impractical at keeping secrets.
-Women are dazzled by a man’s power, but insensitive to his beauty. Power includes physical power, economic power, personal ability, power, and social influence.
-Only a childless woman can commit double suicide.
-Tolstoy was the writer who won the heart of a woman.
-For a woman who is truly in love, infidelity, adultery, and immorality have nothing to do with her.
-For a woman, love is the awakening of the life force within her. The appearance of a man awakens that power in her that she was not even aware of.
-Intellectual men are not sexy: they have not been through the hellholes. The hellholes are everywhere where human beings live. Those who have experienced them know both the pain and the pleasure. He knows how and where to wield the deadly sword. Even a single line or a single phrase of speech has a different power. It has power. The person who reads or listens to them feels his or her blood boil. They feel the pleasure of having their whole body shaken.
-The attraction that men feel for women and women feel for men is the desire to hold them and to be held by them. The head and looks are auxiliary.
Intellectual men lack that attraction. They have only small ambitions.
-Women are itching to respect a man. They want an object to which to direct their love. The child will eventually grow up.
-Jealousy: fear of what you might lose.
Envy: the feeling of not getting what one wants, but feeling for those who are getting it.
-Unhappy man:
A man who thinks he is happy is happy; a man who thinks he is unhappy is unhappy.
Causes of Unhappy Man:
Unhappiness of a man over 40 is caused by his character.
-The future depends on how much you wasted in your twenties.
-A relationship between a man and a woman is also born when their sensibilities respond to each other.
-Women know that being truly loved is a blessing that happens only rarely. She knows that if she is truly loved, she will truly love back.
-In Europe, the male-female couple is the unit of social life for everything but work.
-Without money, no cultural civilization can be created. But money does not always create cultural civilization. I don’t know either. It may have something to do with whether the people had an aesthetic sense or not, or whether they had a constant curiosity.
@ For a man to age well.
-Always keep your age in mind.
-Think and act in ways that coexist and prosper with your age.
-Don’t force yourself to look younger.
-Stay in tune and be natural.
-Use one flashy color.
-Love: True love is the love that makes you feel the beauty of life from the bottom of your heart; until then, spending the night alone, reading, listening to music, etc. is a much more beautiful way to live your life.
-Be kind: If you know that human beings have limitations, and you know that it is human beings who do the best they can, you will naturally be kind to others.
-Be clean.
-Don’t be afraid to show your fatigue.
-To think that sex is possible at 90 years old. Laziness is not about the physical, but about the workings of the brain.
@The man who succeeds.
-All over the body, there is a brightness in the air: the feeling of a sunflower, or a light.
-Don’t look only at the dark side. True is only what he wants to believe to be true.
-90% satisfied and 10% dissatisfied with his work.
-Respect common sense. Everyone has the right to a reason for being. Even an ordinary person has soul.
@Others
It is absolutely advantageous if a Japanese person is bilingual than an American who speaks only English.
-A discussion is a clash of personalities. Language is a tool. When used well, it is a tool that can never be more life-enriching.
-The knack to win the fight with foreigners is to follow Western logic.
-It would be advangtageous,if the Japanese can have humor and wit.
-The work of amateurs is poor fantasy.
(my impression)
It is very tasteful when these words are read in context. Her observations of people, especially her examination of male-female relationships from a woman’s point of view, are very informative. She believes that the best form of love that makes one feel alive and wonderful is a compatible relationship, which is based on emotion rather than intellect. She must be a person exhausting to deal with, but a very interesting woman.
